When it comes to many things I’m usually happy teaching my kids principles and then seeing what they can do with it, kind of like learning in an organic way instead of rote learning.
I’ve never heard Aimee count past 20 before, so I was surprised that while driving with little miss 4, we successfully counted to 100 together.
After celebrating the milestone, she beams at me and says, “now let’s count to one billion”.
After laughing with her, it dawned on me how finite this life is, how precious and fleeting each moment.
Smiling through the tears in my eyes, and with a lump in my throat, I assured her, “one day, I think we will.”
Perhaps there is a place in heaven that God has reserved for fathers and their children to sit together, look out into the universe, count the stars and marvel at all the wonders He has made.
One day we’ll know.
Even before you were born, since you were conceived, you were loved. It was for this love that you were created, and there will be no greater truth that I can tell you as your father, no greater lesson or message that I can convey than that this is your purpose. To experience, to witness, to be a part of and to give love. All Love started from God, and so finds its perfection in Him. We love because He loved us first. We, your parents here are your guardians, and will share all that we have, imperfect as we may be with you. We love you. Yes, you are our angel, and a blessing and sign of God’s love for us, and a part of God’s plan for us. But no matter what hardships you go through, and whatever mistakes you may make. No matter what you do, you are loved. It is not conditional, but a part of your identity, the DNA of your soul. And it is because of this love, you will always find your way home.
For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Do not buy into all the things the world might see as Love, (riches, power, pleasures, cheap thrills, self gratification) rather know that love is not selfishness, nor does it take for itself, but gives.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.
No matter what the world offers, in the end only perfect love found in God will satisfy the longing of your soul, and part of that is to receive love from others and to give love to others. But rather than the world’s perspective, see the example of love on the cross and what it means. You may not understand this fully, but if you seek the truth, The Holy Spirit will reveal it to you.
I pray for you a life Full of amazing experiences, happiness, joy and yes…. That you may live a full life, a life full of Love!
This video from the New York Times is about an inspiring teacher and parent. Mr Wright uses his wacky experiments to wow his students, but along the way, he teaches them about the most important lessons in life. It was definitely worth watching. It inspires us to see how we can change the world where we are. May you be blessed. Thanks Odyssey for sharing on FB.
In Australia, today is fathers day. This is only my second year in celebrating fathers day, so I’m very much new to the whole experience. Fatherhood thus far has been an enormous growth experience, beyond the routine of helping in changing of nappies, feeding, comforting, putting to sleep and dancing to the wiggles, there is much more required. I’ve been honoured to know many good fathers including my own dad. I will summarise what I have learned from them into a list of 10 different things that fathers do for their children.
1. Love your wife
2. Lead by example
3. Cherish your children
4. Be steadfast in your love and show tenderness and mercy
5. Strive for your family
6. Instill responsibility, not fear
7. Encourage virtue
8. Command with respect and love
9. Give for your family
10. Pray for your family
Happy Fathers day to all the fathers I know. I pray for all fathers, that they will lead their families with humility and love, and honour the privilege of the stewardship that is fatherhood. That we may make a brighter future for the world with the legacy that we leave behind, our children. Amen.
The public debate about what to do with people coming to Australia seeking asylum is complex and charged with a myriad of emotions, not to mention a plethora of political propagandist rhetoric and one line slogans such as “stopping the boats”, “boat people”, “people smugglers”, “illegal immigrants”, “border security”, “possible terrorist threat”. If we buy into this rhetoric, then no matter which side of the fence we sit, we have been brainwashed. When we label, we dehumanise people and name them as one problem or another, or worse yet, demonise them. I’m sure we all remember the slogans “War against terror” and “Weapons of Mass Destruction”.
One thing is clear…. If anybody promises that they will “STOP THE BOATS!” then they are making false and empty promises. It does not compute. There is something that is causing people to flee their homes, risk their lives, and their families to take the journey to Australia. Stopping the boats can only be done by changing whatever dire situations these people face in their home countries. There are no simple answers for this issue.
Let’s stop the rhetoric and the labeling and have a real conversation about the real issues about this problem instead.
If the world is a circus, then I think a parent is essentially a funambulist, a tightrope walker.
The job is never easy, and the first rule is to acknowledge, respect and accept the challenge of the rope. The rope is called “responsibility”.
The parent funambulist is unique among the other circus performers because he does not really “perform” for the crowd. The crowd can very loudly proclaim its delight or displeasure at how he is doing, but he must not, must never, let it distract him from the second rule of tightrope walking: maintain your balance. Find your centre of gravity. A long pole held firmly with both hands helps him maintain his balance. The pole could be anything – a good sense of right and wrong, a set of morals, code of ethics, values, faith, even an unfailing sense of humour – anything to keep him from tipping over when the crowd gets too loud or the winds get too playful or the rope becomes shaky. And when the rope does become shaky, he can pause. He can rest, look around him, look at the other tightrope walkers, to give and receive encouragement. Then he has to continue moving forward, because he has to. Because he realizes it is not only him on the rope. He carries on his shoulders his children, and his children’s children, generations of future funambulists! He has to move on because the weight gets heavier with time, with age.
Sometimes, the funambulist falls.
But, as long as he keeps true to the first rule in his heart, something magical happens, a safety net always appears. The safety net is a reminder of the third rule: Do it again.
Sometimes, the funambulist does not want to be a funambulist anymore. So he walks away. My theory is, there will come a day when he will realize that he has given up the best job in the world.
Because it IS the best job in the world. Up there (up here! I am a funambulist, too!), on the often-shaky rope, during moments when everything is in perfect balance, in the stillness you can hear and see everything. The reason for your being, the souls perched on top of your shoulders are giggling at how closer they are to the heavens. And sometimes, you can hear the other funambulists shouting at you, saying “You are doing an awesome job, dude!” And you know they would have clapped if their hands were free but it doesn’t matter because the crowd below is doing all the clapping for them.
I don’t know about the other tightrope walkers, but for me, the best part of it all will be when I get a tap on my shoulder, and my little one says, “Dad, that was fun! Now, I want to walk the rope myself….
…I want to follow you.”
I am not usually a measurer when it comes to cooking, mostly I am an experimenter. One of our favourites from chinese restaurants is crispy beef strips with peking sauce, its also called shredded steak with emperor sauce, and in some restaurants they call it rainbow beef, so as they do, I’ve given it a new name.
On one of my cooking adventures, I was able to invent a recipe that I find comes very close if not on par with those we’ve had in different chinese takeaway/restaurants. This is my first try at writing a recipe, so good luck to us all. I hope you try it and enjoy.
Crispy Beef Strips
- 500g rump or sirloin steak
- 1 egg
- Potato starch (available in the supermarket or asian food stores) If unavailabel use corn starch, but I find cornstarch gives an inferior crunch.
- Rice Bran Oil (for deep frying)
- 2 Tbsp Rice bran Oil
- 2 Tsp crushed garlic
- 3 Tbsp palm or coco sugar
- sesame oil
- 2 Tbsp Kecap Manis
- 1 cup tomato sauce/ketchup
- 1 tbsp sweet chilli/hot chilli/spicy red sauce (depending on how spicy you want it)
- variation: add julienned carrots
Crispy Beef Strips
Cut steak into very thin strips. Shake salt and pepper to lightly season. Combine beef with 1 whole egg in a high bowl and mix well. Add potato starch to coat beef well until beef absorbs potato starch and is no longer sticky but more crumbly.
Heat rice bran oil to 180 degrees C or until a cube of toast sizzles, browns and floats to the top in 15 seconds. Deep fry beef in batches until crispy. Each batch should take around 4 minutes.
Drain beef on a colander or absorbent paper towels. Set aside. Beef will become very crispy when cooled.
Add 2 tablespoons of oil to a wok or a deep non-stick pan. Saute garlic on medium high heat. Add palm sugar and sesame oil, and stir until sugar starts to melt. Add hot sauce, kecap manis and stir in tomato sauce. Bring down to a low simmer. Add vinegar and simmer further 5 minutes or until sauce caramelises, thickens and becomes sticky. Add beef to mixture and coat well.
Serve on a bed of shredded lettuce and garnish with toasted sesame seeds, chopped spring onions and a sprig of coriander.
Serves 4 people. Have with a plate of steamed jasmine rice. Enjoy!
Over the last 10 years, I have been watching the rise and fall of one of the greatest boxing champions in history. Over the last 4 years, I became a fanatic of the game, admittedly for no other reason than watching the phenomenon that was Manny and the drama of the unlikely champion. As a fan, I think it’s time for him to retire. Here are 7 reasons why…..
1. He’s got nothing to prove to anyone.
Those who love him, already love him. Those who hate him, will always hate him. His defeat of larger, stronger fighters who are legends in their own right, Diaz, Hatton, DelaHoya, Margarito, Cotto, Mosley (including being robbed against Timothy Bradley whom he dominated) and the way that he outclassed these fighters cemented his place in boxing History. On most occasions against Juan Miguel Marquez, he performed well but well under his expected domination. The reason, JMMs fighting style and counterpunching as well as the iron chin was a match for his own strengths of speed and aggressiveness. On their last fight, his first loss against JMM, Marquez added the dimensions of size, strength and speed due to superior training and focus. Although pacquiao’s training was relentless, and he matched Marquez throughout the match, that one big knockout punch was a new weapon in JMMs arsenal pacquiao wasn’t ready for. Props to Marquez and sorry Manny, anyone can get knocked out. I will go out on a limb to say that If anyone else in the same weight division fought Marquez that night, the result would have been the same, Mayweather included. Whether or not he will beat Mayweather or Marquez (again), his name is already set in boxings hall of fame and his legacy is assured. He’s got nothing to prove and everything to lose if he continues.
2. His last 2 losses shows that he’s not being looked after.
I feel that Bob Arum hasn’t been looking after Pacquiao. In his loss to Bradley, it seems that Arum had the most to gain from Manny’s shock loss, having just signed Bradley, a younger, stronger and fast fighter. Manny I felt has lost a lot of interest with Arum who needs to look to shore up the future with a new moneymaker, especially as Manny looks to retire in the next few years. And so a contrived win for Bradley would raise his stakes as a player.
Putting pacquiao against JMM again, was a lose lose for Manny as a win would be close again and change nothing, and the loss, as we have seen changes everything. If instead he fought Timothy Bradley, and won (again), and most people would have loved to see that justice was done, Pacquiao could have retired on that high and gained the moral ascendancy. However, that would have been a loss for Arum’s future plans. Arum’s not watching out for his interests, he will sell Pacquiao out for his own interest.
3. He has nothing to gain and everything to lose by continuing to fight.
Brandon Rios is someone who is not worthy to fight him on paper, in style and substance. However if Rios, who is younger and hungrier, somehow trains like JMM, gets fast, strong and develops a knockout punch, there’s no telling what can happen with a lucky punch. There’s no glory in fighting a fighter not in your calibre, so if Pacquiao wins, it will be a loss too. Lose/Lose situation again. Why oh why Arum and Roach? Which leads to the next point..
4. He is fighting for pride now.
The drama they are creating around this fight comes from Rios making fun of Roach’s Parkinson’s disease during the lead up to the Margarito fight. They are saying Pacquiao will shut Rios up. But really, as much as we might think we would like to see that. That is the most shallow reason to take this fight. It’s like they’re running out of ideas, looking for a seemingly easy win to get Pacquiao back in the fight when he should be looking to retire.So he’s fighting for Freddie’s pride.. hmm and his own, or as it is billed in the media to prove he’s still got the punch after his loss to Marquez. More pride. Not a good reason. Pride comes before a fall.
5. Floyd will never lace up against him.
After Paquiao fought and beat Hatton, Floyd Mayweather Junior admitted that fighting pacquiao is a lose/lose scenario for him. And since then, he’s had many different and changing excuses. Mayweather is an awesome fighter and is odds on to beat manny but cannot afford to risk a loss to Pacquiao as he would lose his legacy. Enough said.
6. Freddie Roach is looking tired and uninspired.
In the last few fights, Freddie has been looking tired and uninspired. He has been fighting with trainers including Ariza and on more than one occasion has seemed overconfident saying strength and conditioning was a farce. It seems like he’s lost his hunger to train and win.
7. His country, his wife, and his family needs him to hang up the gloves.
I could only imagine Jinkee’s reaction as she watched her husband laid out on the canvas. He has provided for them well, but his lifestyle has meant that he has had to be absent for long periods of time. He should enjoy his time with his family now and be there for his kids as they grow up. As an elected congressman, he’s also had to spend time away from work. Being in office as a lawmaker, the country deserves him to be the best he can be and give his full attention to his constituency. I think that his legacy in fighting is secure. He has a chance of damaging his service, his family and his health should he continue. The worst case is another knockout, serious injury or death. Even if he should win, go on and fight and beat Marquez again or Mayweather, it would make no difference in my eyes. It’s not worth the risks for his family. I haven’t yet thought of a worthy reason for him to fight. He has nothing to prove and they have everything to lose.
Each day, we move forward but a step, and sometimes it feels like things stand still. The list of things to do seems at times insurmountable. But if today, we lived overcoming our limitations, moving forward even just that one step, then it has been more than worth it. If today, we reached out to another and affirmed them of their value and worth, then we have succeeded. If today we have come to God in prayer, seeking His will be done, then we have triumphed. For each day, if we have lived for more than ourselves, and have truly loved, then we make a piece of heaven on earth. If each day we seek to be with God, then after this life, when none of the everyday things on our lists will matter so much any more, we will have what truly matters. Let us yearn for this, each day.
1 August 2013
I bought a pen.
I bought it this morning at Martin Place from a man who appeared to be in his 50s.
The man was wearing a sign.
I am unemployed.
But I am not giving up.”
We are all that man, just replace “unemployed” with any of the negative stuff we’re dealing with.
Then, let’s not give up.